Welcome back to Mid Week Meditations, Lifehackers weekly dip into the pool of stoic wisdom, andRead more Read. This selection, from Marcus Aurelius, takes aim at those who believe honesty is something to be used at advantage, or some gift to be given to those who are worthy The rotten pretense of the man who says, I prefer to be honest with you What are you on about, man No need for this preface the reality will show. It should be written on your forehead, immediately clear in the tone of your voice and the light of your eyes, just as the loved one can immediately read all in the glance of his lovers. In short, the good and honest man should have the same effect as the unwashed anyone close by as he passes detects the aura, willy nilly, at once. Calculated honesty is a stiletto. Alternative Tentacles Records supplies the world with punk rock music from the Dead Kennedys, Nomeansno, and Jello Biafra. Featuring secure online ordering. No more missed important software updates UpdateStar 11 lets you stay up to date and secure with the software on your computer. Torrentz domain names are for sale. Send an offer to contactinventoris. There is nothing more degrading than the friendship of wolves avoid that above all. The good, honest, kindly man has it in his eyes, and you cannot mistake him. Meditations, 1. 1. What It Means. Beginning a statement with a phrase like, Ill be honest with you. To be frank. or To tell you the truth. If you are honest and good, people will know through your personality and character. Just by being around, everyone should be able to sense that youre a well meaning individual. If youre dishonest, theyll recognize that too. Humans are much better lie detectors than they realize. Aurelius then refers to calculated honesty, or the selective use of honesty when it best suits you, as a stiletto skalme in Greekbut hes not talking about shoes here. He means an assassins dagger with a long, slender blade intended for stabbing through leather and the slots between heavy armor to end a life in a single motion. Essentially, Aurelius is calling calculated honesty a tool used by villains who slink through the shadows and do not fight fair. In his eyes, choosing when to be honest and when to be dishonest is cowardly and false. Each day, we make the same choice hundreds of times whether to lie or tell the truth. It oftenRead more Read. What to Take From It. Early on in our lives we learn that lying is bad. Yet, somewhere along the way, we discover that the world is complicated, and that being completely and totally honest is far more difficult than wed hoped. So we lie. Now, sometimes a lie is unavoidable and for the best. Theres no real harm in saying Everything is going to be okay to comfort another, after all. You cant see the future, so you cant say that honestlybut its fine. The real issue isnt fibbing occasionally, no. Its when you choose to cling to dishonesty, to live your lies as long as it benefits you. Its exuding an utter lack of sincerity and using brief flashes of honesty like some sort of tool to manipulate people as you see fit. One lie begets another and eventually youve lied so many times you start to believe them yourself. You become them. Its not always easy to be honest with people. Installation Of Type B Gas Vent Pipe. Were all guilty of telling a white lie orRead more Read. So, what can you doIs honesty really the best policy Perhaps, but nobody is perfect. Instead, let go of your fears. The fear that youll be judged, the fear that youre not good enough, the fear that someone will catch the faintest whiff of your weaknesses, and be honest. Be your authentic, sincere self, and choose to give it to people straight as often as you can. Be honest and you can live honest. If you find yourself constantly opening up your conversations with phrases like, Ill be honest with you. To be frank. or To tell you the truth, you have to wonder why.